Helping Others Find The Joy Of Stability When Life Feels Like It Could Collapse
Living connected in a way that heals means carrying anchored joy into someone’s pain— So you can sit with them in it… and then help them see beyond it.
Larry Crabb writes:
When two people connect with the soul, something is poured out of one and into the other that has the power to heal the soul of its deepest wounds and restore it to health—the one who receives experiences the joy of being healed. The one who gives knows the even greater joy of being used to heal.
That’s it!
Something is poured out of one person into another that heals. That “something” is anchored in our Six Steps…Joy.
I’ve been reading through the Bible with Tara-Leigh Cobble. She ends each day with a simple reminder: “God is where the joy is.”
This is our Step 6: A connection with God is where the joy is.
Joy in times of trouble is not something we find in our circumstances; it is something we receive from God.
And when we stay connected to Him, we can carry that joy into the very places where it feels impossible. So when you step into someone’s pain, you are not bringing answers. You are bringing something far more powerful, a steady, God-anchored presence for someone who is hurting, as if life could collapse at any moment.
They are overwhelmed, disoriented, and quietly asking:
“What if I can’t hold this together?”
And in that place, Joy feels unreachable.
If you are connected to God, where the joy is, you bring that joy with you in being present.
A presence that is:
- Steady when they feel unstable
- Calm when they feel overwhelmed
- Assurance when everything feels unsure
- Joy beyond circumstances
You are a steady presence in their pain—a healing hand of God, and a living connection to His joy.
You listen… without rushing.
You feel… while staying anchored in truth.
You stay… without fixing.
You allow their pain to be real, while your presence remains reassuring.
Because you’re not just managing a moment—you are carrying something sacred into it.
And as you stay focused on their story, something begins to shift.
- The fear settles.
- The aloneness lifts.
- The unraveling slows.
They are no longer falling apart inside it. They begin to feel seen, heard, and understood.
And only then does hope begin. The fear settles, and they no longer feel alone in their pain…Hope and encouragement begin. And, this hope is different.
It has walked through their pain.
So when you speak…your words feel like a possibility. Not because their situation has changed—but because something inside them has.
It happened when you said:
“I don’t know how this all comes together…but this isn’t the end of your story.”
Before someone can rediscover joy, they often experience it through someone else.
Not as emotion.
Not as an explanation.
But as presence… yours and His.
A presence that becomes their anchor until they can stand again…Until they can get a glimpse of joy again.
Living-Connected Truth
Living connected in a way that heals means becoming a steady, joy-anchored presence in someone else’s fragile moment—so they can experience stability, confidence, hope, and joy
before they can feel it.
This Month:
Don’t try to fix someone. Instead, focus on bringing an anchored joy with your presence.
Connect with God first.
Then:
- Be present
- Listen intently
- Feel their pain
- Be hopeful
- Bring the Joy of being connected to God with you
Trust this:
What God does through your presence may be more powerful than anything you could say.