On Easter Sunday, we celebrate more than an empty tomb. We celebrate our new covenant relationship between God and His people. When Jesus ascended, He gave us access to something we could never earn: an unbreakable connection to our Creator, not based on our performance, but on His sacrificial love. No more trying to earn favor with God or weighed down by our mistakes. Because of Easter we can live with the joy of an eternal close relationship with our Heavenly Father..now!
This is where our deepest healing begins: in a redeemed relationship with God that looks past our performance and is secured in our covenant relationship.
God’s Covenant Love Is A Model for Our Closest Relationships
We also long for that kind of emotional safety, deep connection, and secure love in our closest relationships, especially marriage.
But often, we forget that our marriage was meant to reflect that Easter covenant, not just in the ceremony, but in the everyday moments that follow. Instead of responding with grace, we react to one another’s performance… or more often, non-performance.
Whether we realize it or not, each of us brings a relational history into our marriage. We carry unspoken expectations, fears of rejection, or habits of withdrawing when things get hard. These aren’t just mood swings or personality quirks—many are rooted in attachment patterns formed early in life.
- Some of us anxiously pursue closeness, fearing abandonment.
- Others retreat to protect ourselves, believing we can only rely on ourselves.
- Some toggle between longing for intimacy and fearing the very closeness we crave.
- And a few—through healing—are learning to love securely, with trust and empathy.
When these patterns go unnamed, they often go unhealed.
But when we recognize them, and invite Jesus into them, we begin to move from disconnection to restoration. That’s what Easter makes possible—not only in our relationship with God, but in the way we relate to one another.
Attachment wounds or experiences that cause these behaviors can form early in our childhood or from traumatic experiences. They can cause us to pull away when we long to connect, to cling out of fear of being left, or to feel unworthy of love even when it’s freely offered. These patterns can shape how we relate, especially in marriage.
But here’s the good news: Jesus didn’t just restore our connection to God. He modeled what it means to live connected to others in a way that heals. Through Him, we have the capacity to bring the same redeeming, covenant love into our marriages—a love not built on fear or striving, but on belief, trust, acceptance, and daily sacrifice.
Why Attachment Styles Matter
Understanding your attachment style can help you:
- Recognize the roots of your disconnection
- Communicate your needs without shame
- Heal the gap between your desire for closeness and your fear of being hurt
When we live unaware of our patterns, we repeat them. When we name them and invite God into them, healing begins.
Introducing the Secure Together Devotional Journey
After this Easter, we invite you to join us for a 4-week devotional and email series designed to help couples move from disconnection to covenant connection.
Each email includes:
- A Scripture-centered reflection
- A real-life marriage moment
- A daily connection step
- A prayer to anchor your heart
You’ll begin with an Attachment Style Quiz to understand your own patterns. From there, we walk together through healing anxious, avoidant, and fearful-avoidant styles—all leading toward a secure way of loving.
Start Here:
📊 Click Here To Take the Attachment Style Quiz
📩 Sign Up for the Free 4-Week Devotional Series
“Attachment” Email Devotional
You Can Heal the Way You Love
Jesus paved the way for a restored connection between heaven and earth, between soul and soul. As you begin this journey, may you discover that healing isn’t just possible—it’s promised, through the power of a deep covenant connection.
We’re honored to walk with you in Living-Connected.